Dr. Ruth Westheimer’s Legacy Lives On Through Her Archive and Impact on Culture

Dr. Ruth Westheimer’s Legacy Lives On Through Her Archive and Impact on Culture

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When Dr. Ruth Westheimer passed away in July at the age of 96, she left behind a rich legacy as a pioneering sex therapist, cultural icon, and quintessential New Yorker. As a recently published report in The New York Times described, Dr. Ruth’s persona—a blend of her 4-foot-7 frame, her distinctive voice, and her candid approach to discussing sex—was likened to a cross between Minnie Mouse and Henry Kissinger. She revolutionized the way people talked about intimacy and relationships, while her life story was itself a testament to resilience, adaptation, and intellect.

Beyond her public persona, Dr. Ruth was a prolific accumulator of mementos, papers, and personal effects, as revealed during the clearing of her Washington Heights apartment. According to the information provided in The New York Times report, the three-bedroom apartment, which she had called home since the early 1960s, was packed with decades’ worth of books, awards, photographs, and quirky collections, including hundreds of turtle figurines. “My mother was a pack rat to the nth degree,” said her son, Joel Westheimer, as he surveyed the daunting task of sorting through her belongings.

Fortunately, much of Dr. Ruth’s personal and professional archive will be preserved. As The New York Times reported, the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, known for its pioneering work in the study of human sexuality, has stepped in to curate her papers. The institute has already transported 66 boxes of materials, including letters, journals, notes for her many books (like Dr. Ruth’s Guide for Married Lovers), and other treasures that reflect her remarkable life and work.

Rebecca Fasman, the Kinsey Institute’s curator, explained the process of determining what to preserve. “Even if it is a culturally or intellectually insignificant thing, the fact that they had it around them for so long makes it significant,” she told The New York Times. The collection offers a window not only into Dr. Ruth’s professional achievements but also into her personality and private moments, including a photo quilt signed by friends on her 80th birthday and clippings she had taped to her walls.

Dr. Ruth’s story, as detailed by The New York Times, is one of extraordinary perseverance. Born in 1928 in Wiesenfeld, Germany, to an Orthodox Jewish family, her childhood was shattered by the Holocaust. After her father was taken by the Nazis, her mother managed to secure her a place on a Kindertransport to Switzerland. She never saw her family again.

In 1947, as a teenager, Dr. Ruth moved to what was then the British Mandate of Palestine, where she joined the Haganah, a precursor to the Israel Defense Forces, and trained as a sniper. Later, she immigrated to the United States in 1956, where she earned a degree in public health and worked with Planned Parenthood in Harlem. After obtaining her doctorate in education, she trained as a sex therapist and embarked on a career that would make her a household name.

Dr. Ruth’s breakthrough came in the early 1980s with Sexually Speaking, a radio call-in show that began as a low-profile program but quickly gained traction through word of mouth. As the report in The New York Times noted, her frank and often humorous advice resonated with listeners, making her a trusted figure in a field that was often stigmatized. She authored dozens of books, appeared on countless television shows, and became a cultural gadfly whose impact extended far beyond her field of expertise.

Dr. Ruth’s archive reflects the breadth of her influence. Fasman described flipping through one of Dr. Ruth’s meticulously maintained daily planners from the 1990s. A single page captured her omnipresence in popular culture: “phone call with Oprah,” “meeting with Kissinger,” and “go on Arsenio Hall.” As The New York Times report emphasized, this seemingly casual juxtaposition of names demonstrates the universal appeal and respect Dr. Ruth garnered across disparate spheres.

“There’s no one who didn’t like her,” Fasman told The New York Times. “There was no controversy. And not just that: She was talking about sex. That’s incredible.”

In a world now saturated with influencers, Dr. Ruth’s ability to be both widely beloved and deeply respected stands out. Her work transcended traditional boundaries, normalizing conversations about intimacy in ways that were both accessible and unthreatening.

While Dr. Ruth’s personal charisma was a defining feature of her success, her archive also aligns closely with the academic mission of the Kinsey Institute. Founded in 1947 by Dr. Alfred Kinsey, the institute remains a leading hub for the study of human sexuality. However, as The New York Times reported, even such scholarly efforts are not immune to political controversy. In 2023, Republican legislators in Indiana voted to strip state funding from the institute, with one representative baselessly accusing it of potentially “hiding child predators.”

Despite these challenges, the Kinsey Institute has continued its work, operating on an annual budget of roughly $3 million, none of which comes from state funds. Justin Garcia, the institute’s executive director emphasized its commitment to intellectual inquiry, telling The New York Times, “The institute isn’t a political organization. We are dedicated to research, to asking questions and finding answers.”

Garcia praised Dr. Ruth’s role in advancing this mission, highlighting her gift for making people feel at ease while discussing uncomfortable topics. “Her real magic,” he told The New York Times, “was making people comfortable talking about something they thought they were uncomfortable talking about.”

Dr. Ruth’s unique blend of scholarship and humor is evident throughout her archive. The New York Times described the eclectic mix of items in her apartment, ranging from multiple editions of her own books to titles such as “Judaism on Pleasure” and “Sex as a Sublimation for Tennis: From the Secret Writings of Freud.” A small pink settee in her study was piled with items destined for the Kinsey Institute, including a kitschy ancient-Egyptian-style statuette with a strikingly explicit design.

Her daughter, Miriam Westheimer, shared anecdotes that capture Dr. Ruth’s down-to-earth personality. When entertaining, Dr. Ruth would drape sheets over clutter, jokingly referring to the piles as “a ski hill.” An avid skier well into her 80s, she once quipped that skiers make the best lovers because “they take a risk and they wiggle their behinds.”

Dr. Ruth’s work gave people “permission to ask questions about their sex lives,” Garcia noted, combining scholarly expertise with what he described as her trademark “chutzpah.” As The New York Times report highlighted, this approach helped normalize discussions about intimacy, transforming public discourse and empowering countless individuals.

In 2011, Dr. Ruth enlisted celebrity decorator Nate Berkus to declutter and refresh her apartment. Yet, as The New York Times report detailed, her tendency to collect and preserve items soon reasserted itself, with the “stuff” creeping back into every available corner. By 2023, the apartment’s rooms were again packed, many from floor to ceiling, with papers, memorabilia, and personal treasures.

Dr. Ruth’s son, Joel, and daughter, Miriam, took a creative approach to preparing the archive for donation. The New York Times report explained that the siblings quietly removed the contents of file cabinets and drawers, allowing the Kinsey Institute’s team to sort through the materials without overwhelming their mother. Despite her reluctance to let go of anything, Dr. Ruth expressed delight upon seeing cleared spaces after her return from a rehabilitation center in September 2023. “Oh, this is great. You didn’t throw anything out!” Miriam recalled her saying.

Dr. Ruth’s collection is now being integrated into the Kinsey Institute’s archives, joining materials from other trailblazers such as Masters & Johnson, Helen Fisher, and Cynthia Plaster Caster, as was indicated in The New York Times report.  This comes after the Library of Congress, in 2022, acquired thousands of letters written by Dr. Ruth’s readers and listeners, demonstrating the widespread personal impact of her work.

Among the most poignant items unearthed during the sorting process was a facsimile of a Kindertransport list, containing the names of Jewish children rescued from Nazi-occupied Europe between 1938 and 1940. Dr. Ruth, who escaped Germany as part of this historic rescue effort, had transcribed the names by hand. Fasman described the discovery to The New York Times as “just amazing. Beautiful.”

Dr. Ruth’s fondness for turtles—hundreds of which populate her collection—is more than a quirky hobby; it’s a reflection of her personal philosophy. As her son Joel explained to The New York Times, “She loved turtles because when they move, they have to stick their neck out. You could stay in your shell all the time. But you would never get anywhere.” The Kinsey Institute will preserve some of these turtles, which serve as symbols of Dr. Ruth’s belief in taking risks and embracing life’s challenges.

Even as the archival process continues, the Washington Heights apartment, where Dr. Ruth lived for decades, is set to be sold. The once-cluttered space has already revealed unexpected artifacts, including memorabilia from her children’s school plays and a mix of poignant and whimsical items that capture the breadth of her life.

Through it all, Dr. Ruth’s children and the Kinsey Institute have worked to ensure that the essence of her life’s work—her advocacy for open conversations about intimacy, her resilience as a Holocaust survivor, and her influence on global culture—is preserved.

As The New York Times highlighted, Dr. Ruth’s archive is more than a collection of papers and objects; it’s a testament to a life lived with courage, humor, and an enduring commitment to progress. From her handwritten transcription of the Kindertransport list to her beloved turtles, every piece tells a story of persistence and the power of stepping out of one’s shell to create change.